3.31.2015

Caleb's (late) 14 month update








Age: 14 months plus a few weeks
Weight: 28lbs
Size clothes: 2T


Interests: Caleb continues to enjoy throwing balls and heavy objects. He has recently mastered how to put objects inside other objects, so he is very busy fitting cups inside each other, putting balls in his ball drop, and putting toy cars in bowls. It is so fun to watch his little brain work! He also has enjoyed having food fights on a daily basis. He hit grandpa Danny with a pile of sweet potato during our visit last week! Caleb's favorite part of his day is bedtime wrestling and belly flops with Daddy. It is hilarious to watch those two have a blast being silly! Caleb continues to enjoy his little friends, and play
dates are a highlight of his week.

Challenges: The food throwing is quite challenging. He does it when he is starving, in between bites, and when he is done eating. Oh my! Caleb has also started head thrashing, body lunging, and feet kicking when he is having a mini tantrum. Usually this happens when I have asked him to give me an object that is unsafe. He throws it at me and then starts with his mini tantrum. Big feelings! ANother challenge is the fact that Caleb LOVES fruit in smoothies, but will not eat in in whole form. He will be drinking a berry smoothie, and be poo-pooing the berries I have offered him on his plate. So silly!

Milestones: Caleb has been pulling to stand and cruising for a while, but recently he has started to push up to standing without support, and take 1-3 steps before belly flopping on his bed. Caleb has added "Uh-oh" to his vocabulary, and will say "Ma ma ma" for "mama milk" when he wants to nurse. Caleb has also started sleeping longer stretches at night, and has gone up to 8 hours without nursing at night. My baby is growing up!

Funny Memory: I was able to visit my family last week for 5 days and it was a blast! The funny memory of the month was actually a bit my fault and quite tragic. On the airplane I opened Caleb's straw cup for him to drink some water. The pressure from the plane caused the water to fire hose him in the face for 1-2 seconds, shocking both him and me.  About 2-3oz of water flew out of the cup, and not only was his face entirely wet, but my clothes, the window, and his pants were as well. Caleb started screaming (not funny) and it took me a a while to help my shocked and upset baby to calm down enough to strop his protest. At the time it was NOT funny, but looking back I can't believe I forgot about air pressure!
Sleepy beauty 

Loves climbing 

Major bedhead 

I love my smoothie, but won't touch fruit


Water play with friends!
Visiting Great Grandma M! 

3.05.2015

Life Update

Its been a while since I did a true "LIFE" update.


The Baby (of shall I say toddler)
Caleb never ceases to make me smile. God put all of his light into this little guy to remind me to smile. Caleb's recent antics include watching his food drop off of his highchair, throwing balls around and chasing them like a puppy, and playing peek-a-boo. He is saying "uh oh" and it is quite cute. This little guy's favorite place to be is outside, particularly the beach. We are learning while he cannot walk yet, he sure can climb. He can climb anything that is about bellybutton level or lower. Stairs are a piece of cake.


The Hubby
John has been working really hard at his new job with Fortune Builders. He is a real estate investment coach and is really great at what he does! So far he has gotten really positive feedback, and I have to say it is a relief to have him come home excited to share what new things he has learned and how he is growing. It is such a blessing to see him thriving in an environment that he can use so many of his skills and talents. He is such a great speaker and leader, and it is wonderful to see him use his gifts in the workplace. John has been leading a men's morning prayer time at Flood Church once a week for a few months now (5am start time, whew!) and he is loving the little community of guys that is growing out of that time.


The Family
We took a wonderful family vacation to palm springs last weekend! It was a blast to get away for a few nights and to spend some intentional time making some family memories. We stayed at the Westin and got a little bit of the resort feel. We had a blast swimming at the pool, going out to Thai food, and exploring the gondola base camp. Caleb's favorite part was seeing falling snow for the first time on our way home! It was such a nice and needed rest but it already feels like it was ages away since the daily grind started back up again this past Monday. We need more family getaways!


The Home
A few weeks ago I started the "40 Bags in 40 Days" challenge. you can read more about it on this amazing blog.  The point is to get rid of 40 bags of "stuff" during the lent season (or any random 40 day period). So far I haven't gotten rid of as much stuff as I would have liked to, but I have reorganized and transformed so many spaces in our house! In addition, my parents have gotten on board and made some serious strides to revamp their garden, and a few of my friends have taken up the challenge too! With things like this I will usually get really pumped, make make a commitment to clean regularly, and then will easily become derailed after a few days, maybe weeks if I am lucky. The reason why I picked this particular challenge was so that it had a clear start and end point, with simple and flexible instructions. I'm excited to see the end result of how much lighter our lives will be once this 40 day challenge is over.
Before

after

The Mom
I am stretched pretty thin right now but have had glimpses of relaxing . I haven't been sleeping a ton due to Caleb having a few nighttime wake-ups, which John graciously helps out with by bed-sharing with Caleb on his twin mattress frequently in the middle of the night. I am struggling to find things that are truly life-giving and refreshing that I can do throughout the day to recharge. I know one of them is cooking myself a yummy lunch when Caleb is napping, but I am on the lookout for some ways to do some quick self-care. In the midst of dirty diapers, laundry, shopping, cooking, doing dishes, and keeping a human alive it is hard to prioritize ME. God has been showing me that I need to slow down and enjoy simple things, and I hope that I can find out what those simple things might be!


Enjoy some more pictures of out crazy climber!



He got himself all the way up there

2.09.2015

Caleb 13 months

Time has really truly flown by! Caleb's birthday came and went and I haven't given a proper update for over 3 months. Oops.


I will do some quick updates about our little man-child. He is such a fun guy and we wish all of you could spend time with him!


Age: 13 months
Weight: 28 lbs
Size clothes: 2T shirts, custom made baby yoga pants from Love and Lotus are the only ones that fit!

Interests: Caleb has continued his hobby of ball-throwing. He also enjoys standing up and trying to pull stuff off of our couch. His little arms always seem to be a tag longer than we expect! He loves to play with his buddies and looks forward to going to the YMCA childcare while I workout or having play dates. Caleb is fascinated with the outdoors and is very interested in observing people, vehicles, airplanes, and animals. Caleb absolutely loves the park! Well, any park to be less specific. He can climb up any stairs and scale great heights by crawling up, up and away. We need to be quick because this guy doesn't stop!


Challenges: A big challenge we are working through are molars. Caleb cut through two of them in tow days this week and has been irritable due to the pain and discomfort. It makes me want to help him so badly! Another challenge is communication. Caleb is starting to communicate his wants, needs, and desires but has a hard time when we set limits and boundaries for him. Extension cords are not safe buddy.

Milestones: Caleb started pulling to stand up a while ago, and is now working on standing independently. He will bravely push off the couch and throw his hands in the air for a few seconds before falling backwards. Caleb is starting to form the pointing finger and enjoys poking himself in the mirror and poking our teeth. He is also starting to form more and more words (or sounds that we think are words). He says "go", "no", "dada", "mamama", "mem" "oooo", "yeah", and "ah-da" (all done).

Eating/sleeping/pooping: Caleb can now eat tons of foods, but he definitely has his favorites! Any type of meat he will devour. He also loves paleo banana pancakes, green smoothies, fruit smoothies, almond-flour muffins, raisins, bananas, and of course sweet potatoes. We are still following the WAPF recommendations for food and are avoiding grains and dairy for now. I might introduce soaked oatmeal soon but we shall see! Caleb loves his "mama milk" and is nursing 5-8 times in a 24 hour period. He is sleeping a lot longer stretches but will be a silly goose in the middle of the night when one of us goes in to sleep next to him. He is nursing less at night, which confuses me to no end when he wakes up and refuses the boob. The one things that was a magic "go back to sleep drug" isn't working anymore.  Solid poops are kinda gross, and I have switched to disposable diapers until Caleb has his morning poop. It used to be a mystery when he would poop, and now it is so obvious when he is getting busy in his diaper! The faces he makes are priceless.


Funny Memory: John and I have really enjoyed wrestling with Caleb at night after his bath. We read this article about the importance of roughhousing with your kids so we decided is was high time to comply. Its soooo much fun! Caleb's favorite activity is to "belly flop" on his bed. He will stand up on the ground and lunge onto his bed and completely lay out. It's awesome!










11.18.2014

Caleb 10 Months

Photo Credits: Hope Photography 


Age: 10 months
Weight: 27lbs
Size clothes: Hard to tell! Mostly 24 month but squeezing into them. I don't know what to do next because they don't make onesies beyond 24 months. Do they have a plus-sized baby line? Or clothing line made for baby giants?

Interests: Caleb has taken up the sport of throwing balls. Actually he will throw everything that makes a noise when it hits another object. He thoroughly enjoys tossing a ball around with himself. Crawling still remains his main hobby and he has added climbing over things into the mix. If I put a big pillow in a doorway tp stop him from entering that room, he will say "Challenge accepted mom. I bet I can try to scale that!". He loves to try to climb over daddy when they are snuggling in bed. Caleb is in the "deconstruction" stage of development right now, when he tries to take everything apart, knock over towers I build, take object out of boxes, remove all the books from his bookshelf, and take all the puzzle pieces out of his puzzles. A few weeks from now he will enter the "building" stage, so right now  am cherishing how fun it is to watch him gallop towards a tower to knock down every single block. Every block must be leveled.

Challenges: Sleep is a challenge right now. Caleb has been on a constant growth spurt since I returned from visiting my family in the Bay Area a few weeks ago. He eats 2-3 times at night and he chugs. He must really need those extra calories for that massive brain that must be growing in his noggin. The good thing is he doesn't stay awake for hours (usually) but the broken sleep is exhausting. It is not recommended to night wean until your child is at least one year of age am I can see why. He is truly getting quality nutrition at night. The second biggest challenge has been to keep him out of the kitchen. We don't have a gate or contraption that is big enough to git through our kitchen entryway and right now our kitchen is not safe for him to play around in. We have been temporarily blocking it off with our coffee table and a couch cushion but our little climber takes this as a challenge and will try to scale the cushion or push the coffee table. Oh vey. At least we know he is super persistent!

MilestonesCaleb is now consistently saying "mama", "Mum",  "Mehm""Dadada, "Da", and "Deh" when he desires that particular parent. It is the sweetest thing to hear your child request you by name! Just this morning John asked Caleb "Buddy, do you want mama?", to which Caleb loudly responded while jumping out of his seat next to dad, "MEM!!". My hear is so full during these moments. Caleb is also banging two object together and if he could get his hands on some cymbals he might never stop playing with them. Caleb definitely recognizes his name now and will turn when called.  He is giving us "kisses" which equates to him bulldozing us with his face while his mouth is open. He has actually pushed John off the floor bed by nuzzling into him super hard! He is an intense cuddler. Another interesting milestone that is developing is parental preference and separation uncertainty. When one of us leaves the room he is playing in he might start to cry and become upset. I might be playing with him in his room but when he sees dad walk by the door all he wants is to play with John. This typically occurs between 9-12 months.

Eating/sleeping/pooping: Caleb has expanded his tastes in food! He is actually consuming a bit more during feeding. He continues to love beef and chicken liver, scrambled egg yolks, sweet potatoes, coconut oil, and zucchini. We have added cooked pear, cooked apple, cooked carrots, and squashes into the mix. So far most of it ends up not in his mouth but he sure is having fun! Since we don't have a dog to clean up the mess it makes it hard for me to prioritize feeding him solids.  Can we just nurse until he can ask for solid food? I mean, seriously I can make the food in my sleep, always have an open tap, don't need to clean up a floor, a face, and a highchair, and can never leave my boobs at home when we are out and about. In all seriousness my breastfeeding goal is 2 years, the World Health Organization's recommended minimum.  Sleeping? Caleb takes 1-2 naps a day. If it is 1 nap it is usually 3-3.5 hours! If it is two naps they can vary from 1-3 hours each. Bedtime has been a lot earlier recently due to Caleb's desire to rise with the birds at 5am. Let's talk poop. Can I just say that this in between breastmilk and solids business is plain old nasty? Especially with cloth diapers. Yet another reason I dislike solids.

Funny Memory:   This month I bought an ikea potty chair because they were finally back after a 1 year worldwide shortage. I didn't want to miss the boat again. John laughed at me and asked why I was getting it. "Oh, they might run out again! It's never to early to start with toilet awareness!", I pipped. Ensue massive internal eye roll from husband. The next morning I put Caleb on it just for fun and he peed. He seriously peed. On. The. Potty. I thought it was a happy accident but decided to try again a few more times that day. Lo and behold, he went two more times. I had considered doing elimination communication with him at 6 months and just got lazy and never tried. I researched it again and started implementing several times during the day where I would take him to pee. After 1 week Caleb was going 4-5x a day and having 1-3 wet diapers, usually during naps. He now will get fussy when he needs to pee and will hold it for up to 3 hours so that he can empty himself on his little potty chair. He must really be aware of when he is wet and doesn't like the sensation (I mean, would you sit around in a wet t-shirt for more than 10 minutes?) and enjoys avoiding getting wet. I don't have any expectations for this to last or to make this "potty learning". For right now, our little squirt can squirt all he wants on the potty or decide he likes the ease of a diaper for those satisfying uninterrupted tinkles when he is playing. This phenomenon continues to make me giggle and be impressed at the same time with my wise little son.

Want to see more pics of our trip up to the Bay Area? Check out my sister's photography blog Hopefolio. Photo Credits Hope Photography 2014.




10.24.2014

Optimal Spine Development

If you have been following my blog for a while you will remember that I wrote a post about infant movement readiness and our decision not to put Caleb into a fixed or sitting position until he could get there on his own. We desire to help his spine develop without the awful complications we both have (multiple forms of scoliosis and a hard right lean). Well, the hard work has paid off and we now have a completely mobile and capable little sitter. He is incredible agile, strong, and moves with such ease and strength. His posture is perfect, his core is ridiculously strong, and his upper body strength is a little bit terrifying. Curious how we helped him become a baby beast? Want to know the secret for helping a kid develop proper movement patterns and a healthy spine? Read on my friends.

What most parents do:
Most parents these days have loads of contraptions that put their children into a fixed position and limit mobility. Baby swings, bumbos, play saucers, highchairs, playpens, and even cribs are just a few of these contraptions that provide no additional benefit to the child's development and were created for the parent's convenience. In addition parents bring their infant carseat everywhere and their child is essentially in a fixed position for hours, which accounts for the rising rates of plagiocephaly. Another growing trend is parents propping their infants into a sitting position to "help them learn to sit" or to even purchase an item that claims it will help their child learn to sit.  This is mostly driven my parents thinking that their child "should" be sitting around 6 months. This is actually false and it wasn't until recently that this misconception arose. When my mom was parenting us she remembers, "Oh we knew not to put you into a sitting position until you were 6 months old because you couldn't support yourself. You don't hold a kid into a sitting position if they are going to fall over".  This wisdom has been lost!

The problem:
When your baby is placed in a sitting position before she is ready, this puts the entire weight of her head on her spine. When the spine and surrounding muscles have not developed the strength to properly support this weight, it can lead to the risk of spinal degeneration or issues with the surrounding organs.  Baby contraptions that limit movement are a big setback for infant development. Combined with parents "helping" their children sit, muscle imbalances arise and neurological pathways are formed differently for movement patterns. The main problems associated with putting a child in a fixed sitting position before they are ready are spinal development, sacrum development, and core development. Our shoulders are supposed to be the first weight-bearing joint in our bodies, not our hips. There is a very sequential way in which the infant's spine develops all of the curvatures we see present in adults. They are born with a "C" shaped spine and grow into an "S" shaped spine. Changing the order in which these curves develop may be detrimental to spinal health. The sacrum is not meant to bear weight until the ligaments and muscles surrounding it can support the weight of the baby's head and torso stacked on top of it. Core development is crucial to sitting and walking stability. When babies develop the skill of rolling before sitting they are practicing the twisting and pulling their core will need to get into and out of a sitting position with ease. When a parent "teaches" a child to sit by placing them into a sitting position before they can roll the child is more likely to fall over and injure themselves because they do not have the core strength to "fall gracefully".
Don't  be a sloucher! This baby is too young to have the full weight of their head stacked on her spine

The solution:
Be different starting with not putting your child into a sitting position! It might be hard to ditch all of the contraptions at first (especially the crib) but you can start with babywearing instead of carring your child in the carseat around town. This will help their vestibular system and core develop as you walk, move, and bend over with them on your chest or back. Understanding infant spinal development will help you make the best decisions for your child! Below is a great visual for the steps of spinal development. 
The pelvis and sacrum are not ready to bear weight until the spine have developed the lumbar curve (usually around the time they crawl)

"C' shaped at birth 

Cervical curve develops during tummy time 

Lumbar curve develops during crawling, sacrum begins to tuck

What we did:
-Lots and lots of tummy time (pretty much every time he was put down he was on his tummy)
-Provide non-battery operated engaging toys for movement motivation (place just out of his reach)
-Our carseat stayed in the car and we babywear when we are out of the home
-Limit stroller time to a few hours a week
-No bumbo sitting ever
-No highchair sitting until independent sitting is demonstrated (we didn't do solids until 7.5-8 months)
-No saucers
-Regular chiro adjustments
-No placing him into a sitting position by propping him up 
-Communicated with out Church staff and the YMCA staff that watch Caleb to NOT put him into a sitting position. I even made a card for them to quick reference on his backpack.

The benefit:
It was quite beautiful to watch Caleb learn how to get into a sitting position all on his own. It was pure perfection. We didn't have to do a single thing to help him learn what to do. It was so fun to see all of his hard work on his tummy finally pay off. Right before he started crawling and sitting he had been rolling all 4 ways for a few months and had started to be able to rotate/pivot on his tummy to do a full 360. He was rocking on all four limbs but would only move forward an inch or two when he lunged forward.  He started kicking out one of his legs when he was on all fours to a kickstand position. One day he kicked that leg out and then pushed with the other quad to go into a downward dog position! I was shocked and amazed. Later that day he went into his kickstand position and was rocking on his stable leg. His but touched the ground and he slowly walked his hands up to his crotch. He was sitting! The very next day he started army crawling. It was so fast and furious. Within three days of the downward dog incident he was getting himself into a sitting position, army crawling, and going into downward dog. His sitting position was stable and didn't need a spotter after 4-5 days (he would try to go from sitting to army-crawling and would lose his balance for a few days before he mastered it). Two weeks later he started crawling on all fours. Here we are one month after that first downward dog and now Caleb is a speed crawler, sits with the best posture in the whole wide world, and can move between sitting and crawling with ease. He amazes me. I had no idea how much fun it would be to sit back and watch his movement patterns develop without my interventions. The pictures below document his spinal development and gross-motor development from birth to 9 months! 
4 weeks old. Holding head up for 3-5 seconds


3 months- holding head up for 5-10 minutes

3 months- shoulders bearing weight 

4 months- shoulders bearing weight for 30 minutes

4.5 months-trying to push up

7 months- rolling over, playing with toys in supine for many hours a day

7 months-pushing up in supine 

7 months- practicing with friends

7 months- pivoting in supine

7 months- rocking on hands and knees

7 months- kickstand one leg out, trying to sit back when on hands and knees

8 months- downward dog

8 months- pushing back from hands and knees into sitting

8.5 months- stable sitting, army crawling, moving from floor to sitting with ease

9 months- crawling on hands and knees, sitting, and apparently throwing balls got thrown in there too 

9 months- crab crawling (1 foot flat on ground while pushing, a rare way of crawling) 

9.5 months, sitting, crawling, playing with toys at mid line, twisting, falling without injury, trying to crawl on top of pillows 



Further reading: 
From C to S: How to Nurture Your Baby's Spine Development 
Beware the Bumbo Seat- MamaOT